Pinheaded

Last Thanksgiving or some where in there, one of my favorite cousins asked me why I'm still single. I have been largely single for most of my life and I assumed, incorrectly, that this line of questioning would have commenced deep in my 20's, let a lone my 30's. My mom has started to hint a bit but she's remained un-political about it. My Dad razzes me then, leans in and gives me a cloaked thumbs up.

I responded with what I consider to be the truth. I'm kind of a weird guy. I then flubbed it by stumbling across some sort of example about how I'm kinda a geek and "you know, burning man is a weird place" but actually, judging from all the anecdotal evidence around me, being a Geeky Burner is a great way to not be single.

I recently went to dinner with a very good, but kind of new, friend. They recounted a social relationship stretching back many years. In a nut shell ex and her dated substantially and have remained friends. They did lots of adventuring together.  The ex has since dated my friend's friend quite seriously. They are now on an off, and have a baby together. That sounds like a lot of drama, but it's really pretty copacetic from what I can tell, all things considered. I was recounting this to my self when something occurred to me.  If I was in a long term relationship with a person, then we split up and they started dating someone else, I fully expect to immediately like their new bae.  I guess that's weird. Is that weird? It seems a little unheard of to me.

Any way, what does it say about you if the good people you surround your self with don't surround them selves with good people? How good could they possibly be? It seriously limits ones own ability to be good, if you think about it. So yes, I vet a couple branches down the tree and I expect strong bonds between Eskimo brothers.  It is this kind of thinking, that pervades all walks of my logic, that so drastically reduces the number of fish in my sea. And this is fine, I like a challenge. The thing that worry's me is that even in an otherwise dark room, even a very large one, a pin hole of light is easy to spot.